Tipping Point of Marriage

The top 10 everyday niggles and passion-killers:

1. Weight gain/lack of exercise, 13 per cent

2. Money & Spend thriftiness, 11 per cent

3. Anti-social working hours, 10 per cent

4. Hygiene issues (personal cleanliness), 9 per cent

5. In-Laws/extended family – too much/too little, 9 per cent

6. Lack of romance (sex, treats etc.), 8 per cent

7. Alcohol – drinking too much,7 per cent

8. Snoring & anti-social bedtime habits, 6 per cent

9. Lapsed fashion-Same old underwear/clothes, 4 per cent

10. Bathroom habits – Stray nail cuttings etc…, 4 per cent

Read Entire Story here from Reuters

Antsy people! I smiled at the irony of the words – human beings described as insects. But if surveys are that reliable, this one tops the list of our  “antsiness”.   If we are to believe Malcolm Gladwell’s tipping point arguments , then we can say the top 10 listed above are really little things that annoy us day by day and kaboom! before we know it, they have zapped the life out of our marriages!

Tipping point in marriages at the 36th month is not an entirely new idea, if you ask me.  We always have that “honeymoon” period of 3 years (or 36 months) – remember your 1st job? The excitement you had in the first several months then you realize you weren’t fit for the job after your 3rd yr with the same company (so off you hopped to another one)?   The adrenaline rush driving a brand-new car then realizing you need another one after it’s 3rd yr anniversary?  Or in old-school business terms – getting your ROI (payback period) after 3 yrs – when it hits there and it’s not earning, might as well forget it? Well,  that’ s what conventional wisdom matched with quantitative analysis and other scientific measurements will tell you.

For us? well, we’re on our 11th year of marriage and we do not gauge our union by earthly standards.  While it is true that  boredom kills, including marriages, we continue to spice up the romantic feeling –  like saying “I love you” to each other everyday, him treating me to a dinner date, texting love notes , etc,  I have come to accept the fact that I love my spouse with all his imperfections.  To say that requires a perfect God to bless an otherwise imperfect marriage.  36 or 84 months? Nah, it doesn’t matter really.

JJAMPPONG on my Mind

I  have always wanted to cook.   The Rachael Ray type or perhaps Giada de Laurentiis ( whom for a while I thought i most likely resemble, until i woke up from a lovely dream!) – never have followed recipes to a T but always enjoyed a pinch or a dash of something this and that.  Lately, with the cool weather and occasional rains even if we’re expecting summer soon in our place,  I had Jjamppong ( a spicy Koren soup) on my mind.  I decided to dish out the styro-packed soup of a local brand and googled for something that’s really authentic and home-made.  Alas , i found one  !  This website is very educational, complete with a step-by-step video.  A rookie would surely love it.

photo from maangchi.com

I had all the ingredients on hand so i whisked off and prepare the hot dish.  Had the chili pepper bottle on table just to make sure my kids can enjoy a bowlful sans the spicy taste.  And viola! my own version of Jjamppong didn’t disappoint! It surely warmed the tummies, and more importantly , it warmed the hearts ~ the family loved it!

 

 

 

 

 

Women’s Day 2011

Cheers to the women around the world!

Today, we celebrate the International Women’s Day Centenary. How far have we come? We are grateful that a lot of organizations continually look after our welfare , one such is the United Nations . The UN’s official theme is “Equal access to education, training and science and technology: Pathway to decent work for women”.. A hundred years speaks roughly of 2 generations ( with 40 yrs approximately for each generation) . Personally,  coming from a bloodline of strong women ( both in will and body! both of my grandmas are still alive at 84 and 92!) , I can say that we have come a long way.  And while we savor our freedom in this side of the world, a lot still do not have access to education and basic health services in some parts the globe.

This is my prayer – that we realize our fullest potential , as a woman – who celebrates her uniqueness as a beautiful creation of  the  Supreme One , as a wife – who completes her partner, as a mother – who nurtures her children, physically and spiritually,as a child – who is a great source of joy , as a worker – one approved by her Maker and not by people and as  God’s precious daughter – a co -heir to a kingdom that lasts forever. ..

Celebrate the purple fever!
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” -Proverbs 31:30

 

Life in Circle

Hi! welcome to my site! as if a shape, i love to view life as a circle. Seasons come and go,  so are people, things, places, and what have yous… Every moment counts so I promise to cherish every moment of my life as it comes in full circle. Enjoy, celebrate life! Live and love!